[lovelovelove09]

sooo since your SOOO awesome, i decidedd to come back again to ask you for more help !
so, 3 guys.. Sean, Justin & Matthew
in a way, i kind of like all of them, i knowww it soudns wrong !
but like, i meannn, im not IN LOVE with alll them, its just that ive been single for so long & im loookin for my options, and i have a litttle crush on alll
so prettty much, im trying to ask you whichh guy would be bettter for me & how to appproach themm to make it into something realll, you know?
OK, here i go aprilllll !

SEAN: this guyyyy, we made out @ my birthday party a few months ago. we started talking 2 weeks before my party, and it was allll sexualll . but after he started ignoring me so i got realllly upset & emotionall because i thought we had a thing going? but he ended up dating someone else, & they recently broke up. and then a few dayss ago, we were both at a friends house & watching a movie & we weree holding handds and stufff, but then he tried to make it be something moree & i refusedd because i justt donttttt wanna be ignored. but idk, ive always kind of had feelingsss for him. im very attttracted to himm for some reason. i dont see him being boyfriend material though, not at alllll .. *sigh*

JUSTIN: me & him have been reallllly really closefriends for almost a yearrrr . when he started going out w/ his girlfriend Alyssa, it ate me aliveeeeee . so a couple days ago he tellls me thatt hes gonna break up with her & me and him have been hanging out soooo much omre lately & talking a lot more lately. cause ofcourse were pretty much bestfriends so weve always talkkkkked, but now its more about personal stufff, & we take ecahothers advice. weve established a greattttttt relationshi pp ! we realllly have . i kind of dont want to risk it for the sake of being in a relationship , because i dont wannnnna bcome his new Alyssssssa & for him to find another Kellie (me) and then move on to herrrrr . like no haha. it seeeems like whenever he gets a girlfriend, its likeee, he treats her badly but alll his friends so welll ? but idk i just know ive always had feeeelings for himmm , in a more than bestfriend wayyy .

MATTHEW: iv eonly started talking to him recently. we text a lotttt & we hung out once, we went shoppping for a friends bday giffft, just us 2 . and we were gettting along SO wellll, i was sure we had somethinggg goinnn on. then when we went shoppping thatt time, he was tellling me about how yesterdayy his friends said thatt he had to take it easyyy on trying to “pick up” this girlll and how they got mad at him. but likee, hes picking up girrrrls ? idk if it was for reallll.. maybe to make me jealous (it workked . ) but thenn, we go to the friends bday partty that we bought the gift forrr , and he ignored me. COMPLETELY. it was a dinnner with 30 people orrrr so & i sit next to him, he said nothingggg .. he was facing the other way talking to his friends. saying helllo would be nice ? so i saiddd hey, and he said hey and then looked away. the whole night afterrr that he was kind of liek acting veryyyy strange . so then when we watcheddd a movie later on in the night, thats when i cudddled with Seannnn . but anyways, yeahhh . and thennn he was talking to me today and alll like “textttt me tomorrrow ” and stuff. but i like himm, hes cutttte & very niceee , except for the part where he randomlyy acts allll weirdddd ?

i know alllll these boys are flawedddd . i know thattt . & i also know that you might be thinking i should loook for other guysss. but im just looking to have funnn , im not gettting marrried or anythinggg know whattt im sayyying ? so its likeee, i just want advice as to whooo would be best for meee . i have a feeling your not goign to say Sean haha ! but the heart wants what it wantttts .

THANK YOU SO MUCH APRILLLLLLLllllllllll, your the bestttttttt my loveeee:)!

[Ask April Masini]

Since you’re 17 years old, and you say that you’re just looking to have fun, not get serious or married, I think it’s okay to wait and see who asks you out, and since you like all three of these boys, there’s no harm in casually dating any or all of them.

Here’s what I would advise you, however:

1. Don’t ask boys out. Don’t be the aggressor. I know you’re a sexually charged teenager, but you have to value yourself as a woman. And you’re not too young to understand that men (even young men) feel really good about themselves and their girlfriends (you?) when they’ve won the woman over. If you throw yourself at these guys, you’re making it way too easy for them to win you, and what kind of a prize are you if you’re easy? The answer is the booby prize. Make yourself hard to get. Let them ask you, and you be the one who gets to say yes or no.

2. Don’t have sex right now. I know, I know, it sounds unrealistic and you’re so up for it, but sleeping with multiple guys at your age — or even having any kind of sex with multiple guys at your age — is a bad idea. Casual dating is great. Romance is appropriate. It’s normal for teenagers at 17 and older to be virgins and to be sexually active, but that doesn’t mean it’s right for you. Wait until you find someone you really trust and who trusts you and who you want to be monogamous with, and have a proven track record of monogamy.

3. Get to know all three of these guys a little better by seeing which of them asks you out, and when you do date the ones who ask you out, see who you really trust, respect and connect with.

Good luck!

[lovelovelove09]

thankkkkkkyou so much for yourrr advice aprillll, i REALLLLY appppreciate it! 🙂
ohh my goshhh aprrrrril hahaha im NOT even consideringggg sex ahahah ! youuu havent to worrry about that lol !
THANKYOU SO MUCHHHHHHHhhhhh APPPPRIL ! LOVEEEEEEEeeeeeYAAAaaaaaa ! 🙂:):)

[Ask April Masini]

Let me know how things are going for you…. 😀

[Natalie Noah]

How emotionally intuitive yet inexperienced this situation is, which makes complete sense given her age. She’s not doing anything wrong by exploring options or having crushes; that’s actually part of healthy development. But what is showing up clearly is that all three boys are inconsistent in different ways, and inconsistency is the common red flag here. Attraction without reliability tends to create confusion, anxiety, and mixed signals, which is exactly what she’s feeling.

Sean represents chemistry without safety. There’s attraction, history, and excitement, but also emotional withdrawal and replacement. That push–pull dynamic is powerful, especially for young hearts, but it rarely leads anywhere stable even “just for fun.” Justin is emotionally close but risky in a different way: he treats girlfriends worse than friends, which suggests unresolved emotional patterns. Wanting him while fearing becoming “the next girl he neglects” is her intuition speaking loudly and it’s worth listening to. Matthew, meanwhile, shows early inconsistency and social avoidance, which is often how emotional unavailability first appears.

The advice to let them pursue instead of chasing is especially important here. Not because there’s something wrong with being expressive, but because at this age, self-worth is still forming. When a young woman becomes the emotional engine of a situation, she often ends up over-investing in boys who haven’t earned that access. Waiting to see who shows effort, clarity, and respect is less about games and more about self-protection.

The most grounded takeaway is this: none of these boys needs to be “chosen” right now. Time and behavior will choose for her. Fun doesn’t have to mean chaos, and attraction doesn’t have to mean confusion. The right connection even at 17 feels lighter, clearer, and more mutual. When someone is genuinely interested, they don’t leave you guessing, competing, or overthinking. And learning that lesson early is far more valuable than picking any one of these three.

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