[beachxgirl718]

so me and this guy always talk about hooking up, but we never have. recently I told him that I don’t just wanna f***, I wanna hang out. he told me that was fine and I said “really?” and he said “yeah its gonna be hard for me cause your sexy but ill control myself the first few times lol” so I said “lol thanks I appreciate it, I’m just not like that you know.” and he said “i honestly wasn’t expecting anything like that at first, maybe just hookup.” but then the other night I was drunk and asked if he wanted to meet up and told him id give him a blow job. we met up and we started hooking up, and he was like “I’m so hard, will you give me head?” and I said “no.” well he was being an ass then and was pissed off. so the next day I apologized and I asked if he would give me another chance and he said “im good, stop texting me its annoying.” and then he told me “u lost your chance, I don’t wanna hang out anymore what don’t you get” and then I asked “is it because you’re not attracted to me, or is it because I wasted your time?” and he hasn’t answered, and he’s been ignoring me. so I waited a week and asked him if he wanted to hang out thurs night and he said “no” so I said “why not” and he said “i don’t wanna hookup with you” and I said “oh, why not?” he said “i just dont want to” so I said “well if you don’t wanna hookup with me anymore because I messed up id feel better, but you make me feel like you never wanted to hookup at all” and he said “idk” so I said “will you give me a chance in the future” and he said “we’ll see” so I said “can you at least tell me if you’re attracted to me or not” and he didn’t answer. meanwhile he told me awhile ago that he wouldnt be talking to be if he didnt think i was hott. so a few days ago we had this convo:

6:36pm
are you just gonna keep ignoring me?
?
?6:39pm
leave me alone lol
?
6:39pm
lol you suck
?
6:39pm
suck me
?
6:40pm
yeahh right you don’t want it
?
6:41pm
i think I do
if its good il prob hit you up to f***
?
6:43pm
so then you should hit me up
?
6:43pm
u think so?

?6:50pm
yes
i do think so
ive been trying
you never hit me up anymore, so you should
?
6:52pm
il hit you up tn if you promise to make up for lasttime and video chat with me now
my cocks out
?
6:54pm
i will make up for last time
im not video chatting. I hate it
?
6:54pm
no deal
?
6:55pm
fine
?
6:56pm
c ya
?
6:56pm
byeee
?
6:57pm
dnt message me anymore
?
6:57pm
okay
?
6:58pm
n remove me as a friend
?
6:58pm
? you’re being stupid. I’m not gonna hit you up anymore. I get that you don’t wanna hookup
?
6:59pm
i wuda tn
?
6:59pm
well so would i, but you don’t wanna unless I video chat
so forget it
im done trying
?
6:59pm
good
?
6:59pm
ok
?
7:00pm
ur mistake
?
7:00pm
no its yours
?
7:00pm
mine?
?
7:00pm
yes
?
7:00pm
ul never get a d*** like this
ever
?
7:01pm
i believe you
listen I was willing to do whatever, but you are not willing unless I video chat
so basically I wanna hookup, you dont. so its fine. no worries
?
7:02pm
ur afriad to video chat
wen I said my cocks out
?
7:02pm
it just doesn’t make me feel comfortable
?
7:02pm
u wudnt touch it last time
so I think your afriad of it
all good
bye
?
7:03pm
lol I’m not afraid of your d***
i just don’t like video chatting, and last time I was drunk and stupid. I wouldn’t keep hitting you up if I was afraid of your d***
?
7:04pm
well you made a mistake last time your making another
ur not getting a 3rd chance bye
?
7:04pm
okay that’s fine

can you please answer all of these? did he ever wanna hookup with me? do you think that he just didn’t think I was hott and hes not attracted to me? why didnt he answer me when i asked if he was attracted to me? do you think he doesnt wanna hookup anymore because he doesnt think im hott or because he thinks im a “waste of time”
i was just looking for casual fun, im not looking for a relationship by the way.

can you please answer all of these?
-did he ever wanna hookup with me?
-do you think that he just didn’t think I was hott and he’s not attracted to me?
-why didn’t he answer me when I asked if he was attracted to me?
-do you think I was just a waste of time to him and he doesnt wanna hookup anymore because he didnt get it the first time? even though im telling him i will do it the next time.

i know this sounds stupid, if you could just answer the questions id be very greatful. thanks so much!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’ll answer your questions first:
[quote]
can you please answer all of these?
-did he ever wanna hookup with me?
-do you think that he just didn’t think I was hott and he’s not attracted to me?
-why didn’t he answer me when I asked if he was attracted to me?
do you think I was just a waste of time to him and he doesnt wanna hookup anymore because he didnt get it the first time? even though im telling him i will do it the next time.
[/quote]

-Yes, he did want to hook up with you. I’m not sure why you don’t realize that since he made it crystal clear. 😕
-He was attracted to you for sex only. He was never interested in you for anything more than that. He doesn’t care about you. He just wants to use you.
-He thought you were hot enough to use for sex, but not hot enough to chase after.
-Yes, you became a waste of time to him when you started making him work for sex. He’s only interested in sex, and he’s made that wildly clear. He’s looking for someone easier.

Now that I’ve answered your questions, I hope you’ll take some time to reflect on yourself and your own behavior. What you need to understand is that guys only need a place to have sex. If a guy likes you and wants more than sex from you, he’ll act like it. YOU need to play a part in this. If you tell a guy who’s teasing you about hooking up that you don’t just want to have sex, but you want to hang out, too — you’ve sold yourself way short. He’s figuring, if I hang out with her for x number of nights, then I can get sex from her. What you should have done is ignore him and only spent time and energy with men who will treat you like a valuable human being. This doesn’t mean they won’t find you sexy — it means they’ll find you sexy and valuable as a human being and as a woman.

Obviously your calling him up and offering him oral sex was a mistake for the record books — I hope you know that. This isn’t your boyfriend with whom you have a valuable and mutually respectful relationship — because that would, frankly, be okay. This is some guy who doesn’t care about you and now you were throwing sex at him — and he rejected that!

Learn what you can from this experience and leave this guy alone. You can do a lot better — if you allow yourself too! 😉

[beachxgirl718]

once again, i resubmitted with updates to this same thread. thanks again!

so me and this guy always talk about hooking up, but we never have. recently I told him that I don’t just wanna f***, I wanna hang out. he told me that was fine and I said “really?” and he said “yeah its gonna be hard for me cause your sexy but ill control myself the first few times lol” so I said “lol thanks I appreciate it, I’m just not like that you know.” and he said “i honestly wasn’t expecting anything like that at first, maybe just hookup.” but then the other night I was drunk and asked if he wanted to meet up and told him id give him a blow job. we met up and we started hooking up, and he was like “I’m so hard, will you give me head?” and I said “no.” well he was being an ass then and was pissed off. so the next day I apologized and I asked if he would give me another chance and he said “im good, stop texting me its annoying.” and then he told me “u lost your chance, I don’t wanna hang out anymore what don’t you get” and then I asked “is it because you’re not attracted to me, or is it because I wasted your time?” and he hasn’t answered, and he’s been ignoring me. so I waited a week and asked him if he wanted to hang out thurs night and he said “no” so I said “why not” and he said “i don’t wanna hookup with you” and I said “oh, why not?” he said “i just dont want to” so I said “well if you don’t wanna hookup with me anymore because I messed up id feel better, but you make me feel like you never wanted to hookup at all” and he said “idk” so I said “will you give me a chance in the future” and he said “we’ll see” so I said “can you at least tell me if you’re attracted to me or not” and he didn’t answer. meanwhile he told me awhile ago that he wouldnt be talking to be if he didnt think i was hott. so a few days ago we had this convo:

6:36pm
are you just gonna keep ignoring me?
?
?6:39pm
leave me alone lol
?
6:39pm
lol you suck
?
6:39pm
suck me
?
6:40pm
yeahh right you don’t want it
?
6:41pm
i think I do
if its good il prob hit you up to f***
?
6:43pm
so then you should hit me up
?
6:43pm
u think so?

?6:50pm
yes
i do think so
ive been trying
you never hit me up anymore, so you should
?
6:52pm
il hit you up tn if you promise to make up for lasttime and video chat with me now
my cocks out
?
6:54pm
i will make up for last time
im not video chatting. I hate it
?
6:54pm
no deal
?
6:55pm
fine
?
6:56pm
c ya
?
6:56pm
byeee
?
6:57pm
dnt message me anymore
?
6:57pm
okay
?
6:58pm
n remove me as a friend
?
6:58pm
? you’re being stupid. I’m not gonna hit you up anymore. I get that you don’t wanna hookup
?
6:59pm
i wuda tn
?
6:59pm
well so would i, but you don’t wanna unless I video chat
so forget it
im done trying
?
6:59pm
good
?
6:59pm
ok
?
7:00pm
ur mistake
?
7:00pm
no its yours
?
7:00pm
mine?
?
7:00pm
yes
?
7:00pm
ul never get a d*** like this
ever
?
7:01pm
i believe you
listen I was willing to do whatever, but you are not willing unless I video chat
so basically I wanna hookup, you dont. so its fine. no worries
?
7:02pm
ur afriad to video chat
wen I said my cocks out
?
7:02pm
it just doesn’t make me feel comfortable
?
7:02pm
u wudnt touch it last time
so I think your afriad of it
all good
bye
?
7:03pm
lol I’m not afraid of your d***
i just don’t like video chatting, and last time I was drunk and stupid. I wouldn’t keep hitting you up if I was afraid of your d***
?
7:04pm
well you made a mistake last time your making another
ur not getting a 3rd chance bye
?
7:04pm
okay that’s fine

can you please answer all of these? did he ever wanna hookup with me? do you think that he just didn’t think I was hott and hes not attracted to me? why didnt he answer me when i asked if he was attracted to me? do you think he doesnt wanna hookup anymore because he doesnt think im hott or because he thinks im a “waste of time”
i was just looking for casual fun, im not looking for a relationship by the way.

can you please answer all of these?
-did he ever wanna hookup with me?
-do you think that he just didn’t think I was hott and he’s not attracted to me?
-why didn’t he answer me when I asked if he was attracted to me?
-do you think I was just a waste of time to him and he doesnt wanna hookup anymore because he didnt get it the first time? even though im telling him i will do it the next time.

i know this sounds stupid, if you could just answer the questions id be very greatful. thanks so much!

[beachxgirl718]

i resubmitted above. i compiled the posts all together above. please answer when u get a chance. thank you!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’ve posted two compilations today — one other in addition to this one, three minutes apart. Please stop posting so many new threads on the same topic. So far you have 19 posts on one topic. I’m [i]always[/i] more than happy to help readers here, but this is a free service, and your multiple posts on the same topic are getting too confusing. I’ve answered you about half a dozen times, so at this point, the best advice I have for you is to read Think & Date Like A Man, so you can understand what men mean when they say and do certain things, as well as how to win in the dating game. Here’s the link: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. I think this book will help you a lot since you seem to have a lot of questions, and it’s geared to help women date smart. 😀

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