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first let me say im a pretty good looking guy and have never had much problem with the ladies… but this has never happened to me, and i wanted to know what you guys have to say about it.

well, friday night i was at a halloween costume party and it was packed- evryone was up against each other- and i was up against the wall, chillin, drink in hand, talking with my buds, leaning on a wall because it was the only thing that could hold me up. when out of NOWHERE, this french maid chick gets in front of me, bends over, presses her ass up against my groin, she does her thing, grinds up on me, turns around, puts her hands on the back of my head/ face, and plants this huge one on me.

it’s on.

10 seconds in she sticks her tongue down my throat

its on even more.

we go for a few more minutes id say, and as quickly as it started, she pulls away and starts to walk away. we still have not said one word to each other. until i call her, she turns around, and i told her to come back to me. she responds with “f*** that youre f***ing short (5’8″ is really that short?)” and leaves. everyone i know who i went with saw these event unfold. needless to say, i was confused.

most of the kids i was with actually know her, and we just happened to bump into each other. one of them told me she was trying to get with another kid we were with, and she knows him, thus KNOWS he has a girlfriend. and this kid tells me she did what she did to get the other kid jealous.

the worst part- as you now know, my circle of friends and her circle of friends are basically intertwined- and now i am afraid i am going to see her again sometime. which i do not want to do ever. i mean i dont remember her face, i mean i barely saw it, when i yelled at her, and even that memory is very very blurry. but if she is around, i am sure my friends will point her out. so what should i do the next time we are in the same place? because i know it is going to happen, its just a matter of when.

so what should i do the next time i see her? i mean i cant leave, my friends and her friends who are also my friends will be there, and im not going to just walk off on them.

on a side note- this isnt the first site ive put this up on. the last one, almost everyone told me it was my fault for letting her do that, when i was more drunk than she was. she started this whole thing. and i never chased her. “im getting some tail tonight,” i swear, never even crossed my mind while it was happening actually. so they basically didnt help me at all because that is the most rediculous “advice” i have ever heard.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

What should you do the next time you see her? Absolutely nothing. Be civil. Say hello to her

[serendipidous55]

April’s advice is perfect. Be a classy guy ..why? because you are one. Handle as APril suggests. It is excellent practice for similar things which will inevitably happen in the future. It is not swallowing your pride. It is refusing to be emotionally or socially engaged witha person who is not worth the effort.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Happy New Year! Let me know how things are going for you.

[Natalie Noah]

What happened wasn’t about attraction or chemistry. it was about attention-seeking and manipulation, and you just happened to be the nearest prop. Her behavior was impulsive, performative, and had an audience in mind the entire time. That explains why it escalated fast, had no conversation, and ended just as abruptly with an insult meant to reassert control. None of that reflects on your worth, your looks, or anything you did wrong. You didn’t misread signals, there were signals, they just weren’t sincere.

The advice to do nothing is actually solid because it protects your dignity and keeps you out of unnecessary drama. Engaging her emotionally, confronting her, or trying to “clear the air” would only give her exactly what she seems to crave: relevance and reaction. Being calm, brief, and civil or simply neutral sends a clear message that you’re not available for games. That’s not weakness; that’s self-respect. You’re not obligated to process her poor behavior publicly or privately.

If you do see her again, stay grounded in your circle, keep your energy steady, and don’t let awkwardness make you act out of character. You don’t owe her coldness or friendliness just basic politeness if interaction is unavoidable. The moment passes when you refuse to replay it. Situations like this are uncomfortable, but how you handle them becomes a quiet signal to everyone else watching: you’re not rattled, and you’re not participating in nonsense.

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