[suga4336]

hi,
I have known this guy or rather have been seeing this guy for 3 years now.In the begining he was very nice, kind and sweet , then after 2 years he started to cheat on me, the first time I found out cos me and him worked together and the girl he was sleeping with worked there too so it was easy for me to find out. After that one he started up a myspace page then started seeing another gilr through that as well which even then I found out at that point it was enough for me. So I told him it was over but found it hard to live without him then we he asked me back cos she said he felt that way but the feeling was not there anymore cos I didnt trust him anyway. Now cos i have been hurt too many times the love is not there any more and he is begging for this love to come back which is not happening.
What shall i do with him ?

[kikibrown22]

You already know the answer. You need to drop this guy for good. I don’t really believe in second chances, especially when it comes to cheating. Either way, this guy has had two and he’ll keep cheating on you if you keep taking him back and forgiving him. You deserve better than this.

[bumble_gal]

You gave him a second chance and he blew it – you will never be happy dating a man you cannot trust. You deserve better. You say you broke up with him before but couldn’t live without him… breaking up with someone is never easy, but just think of all the unhappiness and upset he’s caused you, rather than dwelling on the things you’ll miss about him. Make a clean break and fill your time with lots of stuff you love doing, and gradually it will get easier.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Happy New Year! Let me know how things are going for you.

[Natalie Noah]

This situation is painfully clear, even if it doesn’t feel that way emotionally. The relationship didn’t slowly erode it was actively damaged by repeated betrayal. Cheating wasn’t a one-time mistake; it became a pattern. Once trust is broken multiple times, love doesn’t “come back” just because someone begs for it to. What’s gone here isn’t effort or forgiveness, it’s emotional safety. Without trust, there is no real relationship only anxiety, vigilance, and resentment.

What stands out most is that she already knows the answer. Her heart has shut down as a form of self-protection, not cruelty. Staying now would only prolong pain and reinforce his belief that consequences don’t stick. Wanting him to leave isn’t selfish. it’s healthy. Walking away for good isn’t about punishing him; it’s about finally choosing herself and making space for a life that isn’t defined by betrayal.

[Lune David]

Let’s be real for a second — this situation isn’t confusing, it’s just painful. He didn’t “accidentally” lose your trust, he broke it, picked it up, and broke it again. And now he’s shocked that the love didn’t magically survive? That’s not how hearts work.

You didn’t stop loving him to punish him. You stopped because your heart finally got tired of bleeding. When someone cheats more than once, love doesn’t disappear dramatically it slowly packs its bags while trust is being destroyed. AskApril would probably say that begging can’t rebuild what repeated betrayal burned down.

At this point, him wanting the love back sounds less like remorse and more like panic over losing access to you. Walking away isn’t cold or cruel it’s self-respect. Sometimes the spiciest, strongest move is choosing yourself and letting the lesson be his.

You deserve peace, not promises that come with an expiry date.

[Member]

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