[prettygirlxoxo]

my story goes like this.

i met this guy when 1 was 1st year college 1st sem (I’m in my 2nd year now).
he was my crush that time time goes by that we have teased by our classmate because of
our special treatment with each other. since then, he asked me if he could court me, i said yes.
we have been dating for 6 months (no commitment).
at first, our relationship was like a fairytale a lot of guys and girls are so jealous of our relationship
even though we don’t even have commitment each other. but there is this attitude of mine that i can’t control
i always got jealous (because he has a lot of girl friends that i know they have a crush on him) maybe because i
got insecure of those girls because they have the looks even though i also have looks. i also got a trauma having my special
someone surrounded by girl friends because i have already tried having a relationship that was taken away from me
because of another girl. i was such an understanding girl back then but it happened to me 2 consecutive times already 😐
(back to the story)i became a drama girl. and i want to always get his attention. maybe because i don’t get the attention i also
didn’t feel having a love of a father. our relationship became bitter even though we still love each other.
until such time (after valentines,(he even surprised me and gave me chocolates and bouquet that day) )
that guy told me that we should stay friends because he is not ready yet (he even made a promise that he will tell me first when he’s ready. we also promised to each other that we will not have a relationship to other people yet until we graduate but if can’t take it. we should tell one another if we have someone we have interested in).

but the problem is. i don’t want to be friends with him anymore but he doesn’t want us to become strangers.
we even cried to each other that day. lol. and yeah i accepted it (he even want me to become his Best Friend).
after that we still contact each other everyday he was still sweet on me. we still date. he even introduce me to his
family. we say i love you to each other. but sometimes i go over the limit and always remind me that were only friends.
how can i not go over the limit ❓ if he still do that sweet things on me.

moving forward….

last month we had a major breakdown because i kept going on the limit and he didn’t like it. we became bitter for 1 whole week (i started it because i was heartbroken for the second time 😥 ) we have contacted each other again. he always keeps insisting me that we should be friends. he can’t accept it if we became strangers. but for my side i still love him and want him back but if he really just wast us to be just friends, i can’t accept it because i will be the one who will hurt most one day. but sometimes i have second thoughts that i want to be friends and have contact him. because he is the one begging that we should stay friend.

should i remain friends with him or be just strangers?

P.S. read his post in twitter like “[b]it was always been you[/b]” “[b]if it’s you prove it[/b]” “[b]yesssss[/b]” (well, i’m not saying that i’m the one
he means to that i just feel because that time i asked him if he is still interested with me but he said “i don’t care as long as were friends” but i was not satisfied i texted him back “just say NO if you’re not interested already” and he replied “NO”)

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Men and women can’t be friends. My advice is to let go completely — don’t be friends; don’t promise each other anything; don’t make time to see him or get together — so that you can move on and find someone who is a great boyfriend for you. 🙂 You can’t feel single and be available to meet anyone as long as he’s in your life, so if he doesn’t want to date you, then it’s time for you to move on.

I hope that helps! 😉

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[prettygirlxoxo]

Hi Ms. April 🙂

yup. i get your point. but my next problem is how should i distance my self to him if we have the same group
of friends? yeah i have been trying a lot of time already try to distant myself but how can i distant my self? i can’t just tell my
friends that “i don’t want to him to just us for lunch ” or “i don’t want him to come with out our hang outs” i think it’s very rude i tell them that because we are so bonded friends. (like treating each other like brothers and sister already)

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If you have a lot of the same friends, you’re going to have make some changes in order to distance yourself from him. Obviously, if you continue to hang out with your regular friends, you’ll have trouble distancing yourself. So, you’ll have to find your best manners to excuse yourself from these friends and find new ones. 😉 I’m sure that your friends will understand, and if you’re polite about it, you have nothing to worry about. 🙂

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[prettygirlxoxo]

hello again miss april,

i think it’s kinda hard for me to find a new group friends that i can really trust.
mostly here in the university i’m taking, it’s really hard to find someone i can lean on to or
be with me whenever i needed them. i have tried that already. although we’re friends but i can’t really catch up
with their attitudes, likes and dislikes. i am really happy now with group of friends because they really understand my
crazy personality and stuff. i can cry to their shoulders and etc. that i can’t do it to other people. what should i do?
i think i’m going to have hard time finding new trustful friends 😕

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I know you don’t want to, but you’re going to have to do some hard work. 😉 Instead of saying no, try saying, “I think I’ll try that!” See how things will turn around for you. 😀

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[prettygirlxoxo]

hello miss april.

i need an advice. i will celebrate my debut next Wednesday. there was already an arrangement that the guy will be my escort and and my 18th rose in my. and i can’t let just take it away because he has already prepared for it and excite. what should i do in my debut? but, it’s okay for me and him if he will go. i’m just confused.

[prettygirlxoxo]

i also have a plan that after my debut. i will completely let go of him. is it a good idea?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If you can’t get someone else to fill in for him, then make it your last time with him — but it’s better for you if you can find someone else to help you out with your debut. 😉

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[prettygirlxoxo]

hi miss april 🙂

i just wanna share what happened when i was in school. unfortunately we saw each other at school.
we actually have a group hang out in school. i was wondering because i always catch him glancing at me.
but he doesn’t approach me at all. but of course i kept telling my self to move on so i spent my time talking to my other
friends instead focusing on him. i just ignore the way he sends some awkward feeling to me. i don’t why but he keeps
talking about girls a lot in front of me. i just ignore everything he says and put a headphones in my ears (it helps 😀 ) he is not like that in he past. he was just a simple guy at that time. but now he
changed. i just wan to know if can you explain why is he acting like that?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m not sure, from what you wrote, how he has changed.

[prettygirlxoxo]

Hi miss april,

Do you have any advice on how. to move on?
yeah i have been trying myself for a month now. these are the achievements I’ve made though
1. We don’t have any communications now.
2. We don’t see each other. (I’m trying not to see him)
3. I don’t remember his phone number now. (yay!) 😀
4. Trying myself not to always hang out with my friends.
5. trying myself to know more people.
6. trying to be inactive in social media so that i can’t see his recent picture with gals.
7. trying to distract my self in computer.

But why is it there is still a thorn in my heart whenever i see him or seeing him with another girl who my friends says that they are only friends. but see them like they are so close (I’m not that close to that girl). I always remind myself to let go of him. it worked temporarily. do you any advice to move on faster? i really want to move on but there is this 5% of me who pulls me back 🙁 it’s so frustrating -.-“

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re doing great — and none of this happens overnight. 😉 Here’s what I did notice from what you wrote, however: You’re doing a lot of defensive work by putting up boundaries. Now, it’s time to play offense. 🙂 Start doing things that are fun and good and new — for you! In other words, start putting yourself out there in new arenas. Give yourself a makeover, or simply a new haircut. Join a new group of people — start a new sport or exercise routine that you’ve always wanted to try, but never did. Invite new people to do things with you. Have a party — even if it’s just a restaurant night where you invite three new friends to each bring three new friends! Something as silly as changing the furniture in your room around will change your outlook and give you a new outlook on life. 😉

I hope that helps!

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[Ethan Morales]

You’re stuck between hope and self-harm. He’s asked to be “just friends” because he isn’t ready to commit, but he keeps giving you romantic crumbs sweet texts, dates, introductions, “I love you.” That mixed behavior isn’t love; it’s emotional buffet-keeping. You’re still hurt because you’re investing feelings where there’s no clear return. That’s the definition of getting emotionally burned.

His words (tweets, promises) don’t matter as much as his choice to keep you in the friend-zone. Tweets like “it was always been you” are noise. Actions are the scoreboard. He chooses friend-status while keeping the perks of romance. That’s not generosity. it’s convenience for him and cruelty for you. You deserve someone who chooses you outright, not someone who relabels you to avoid commitment.

If you stay friends now, you’re agreeing to lose. Being “best friends” while you still love him is a slow bleed. Every sweet moment will be both a hit of hope and a reminder of what you don’t have. Yes, you’ll keep contact and that’ll feel safe but safe won’t get you a relationship. It’ll keep you in a loop of pain and confusion.

Cut contact and create real space to heal. Be blunt and kind: tell him you can’t be friends right now because you need to stop being hurt. No drama, no begging. Then go no-contact for at least 6–8 weeks. That’s not punishment it’s self-preservation. During that time, live your life, see friends, focus on school, work, hobbies. Let your feelings settle without him in the room.

If he wants you back after you’ve created distance, demand clarity. Distance will show you his priority. If he returns and says “I want you,” great but don’t take words alone. Ask for consistent behavior: regular dates, mutual plans, and a timeline for commitment. If he hedges, walk. No more “maybe”s.

Choose yourself over the fantasy. You can be friends later maybe but not while your heart’s on the table. Protect your self-worth. If he can’t offer commitment now, he’s offering you a role that’s designed to hurt someone who wants more. Stop auditioning for that role. If you want, I’ll write the two-sentence note you can send him to end contact without drama. Want that?

[Tara]

This guy wants the benefits of a girlfriend without the responsibility of being your boyfriend. He wants your attention, your emotions, your loyalty, your sweetness, your energy but he does not want to commit to you. That’s why he keeps you close enough to feed his ego but far enough to avoid any accountability. All that “we’re only friends” crap is his safety net, and all the sweet talk is just bait to keep you from leaving. You’re not confused you’re just refusing to accept the answer he’s already given you. You love him, he likes the attention, and that imbalance will crush you if you stay. If you stay “friends,” you’re volunteering to be his emotional doormat while he keeps you as a backup plan. If you cut him off, you actually give yourself a chance to heal and find someone who wants you without the games. The choice is simple: be miserable and stuck, or walk away and stop letting him use you as his almost-girlfriend.

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