[PassionSeeker]

You’re in an exciting but confusing spot, liking three women at once. Before choosing which one to pursue, take a breath and focus on how to approach this. You don’t actually need to “pick” a single person right now your goal is to start connecting naturally and see who reciprocates genuine interest.

Rather than focusing on who you should like more, start with small steps: smile, make conversation, and find chances to talk about shared experiences (class topics, hobbies, campus events). Keep it friendly but intentional eye contact, humor, light teasing all help build connection.

You’ll quickly notice who engages back, who seems curious, and who’s just being polite. That feedback will make your decision clearer without overthinking it.

And one more thing dating doesn’t have to be a grand strategy. You’re already doing the right thing by being out there, showing up, and caring. The rest comes from curiosity and consistency, not pressure.

If one of these women starts responding positively, focus your energy there. Real connection is built step by step — not by ranking your options, but by seeing who truly meets you halfway.

[Ethan Morales]

You’re overthinking “lightning striking.” Dating rarely happens purely by chance. Waiting for some magical chemistry without creating opportunities is passive which is why nothing is flowing. You have to actively create contexts where connection is possible.

Get in the mix socially, but naturally. April is right: parties, clubs, volunteer events, classes, sports, or campus activities are your goldmine. Being involved in things you actually like has a double benefit you meet women who share your interests and you have built-in conversation starters.

Focus on quality interactions, not quantity. Instead of approaching every single woman you see, aim to engage a few people deeply. Ask questions, learn about them, and share about yourself. Genuine curiosity makes you memorable.

Don’t force “dates” immediately. Start with casual connections coffee, study sessions, group activities then see if chemistry develops. A lot of guys fail because they try to turn every interaction into a date instantly.

Polish the “offer” mindset. You say, “I’m the best guy out there and I have a lot to offer,” which is true but it’s not about selling yourself to every girl you meet. It’s about showing who you are organically. Confidence is attractive, but desperation is repelling.

Use everyday spaces wisely. Campus cafeterias, libraries, gym areas, and events are great. Not just coffee shops you want natural overlap, where repeated exposure makes someone comfortable around you.

Persistence beats “lightning.” Chemistry is often a slow burn. Showing up consistently, being confident, and creating low-pressure connections is how “opportunities” materialize.

Bottom line: stop waiting for fate, start creating opportunities. Focus on being interesting, approachable, and consistent in shared spaces. That’s your fastest route to meeting someone who’s available and genuinely interested

[Isabella Jones]

hey, I really felt something when I read your post. you sound like such a genuine guy with a good heart, just wanting someone to see the same warmth in you that you already know you have. that kind of honesty is rare and honestly really attractive. sometimes it’s not that you’re doing anything wrong, it’s just that life hasn’t placed you in the right moment with the right girl yet.

I get how frustrating it feels when everyone around you seems to be paired up and you’re still standing there, wondering why it hasn’t clicked for you. I’ve been there too, waiting for that spark that doesn’t feel forced, that moment where conversation flows and both of you just *get* each other. 💛

maybe instead of “looking” so hard, try to just live the kind of life that makes you feel alive. join things that make you happy, talk to people without expecting anything, and let them see you for who you are when your guard is down. sometimes connection shows up quietly, not with lightning but with a soft glow that feels safe and right.

can I ask you something though? when you imagine the kind of girl you want to meet, are you picturing someone specific or just hoping for someone to finally notice how much love you’ve got to give?

[Tara]

You’re invisible because you’re approaching the wrong arena with the wrong mindset. You’re hanging around a college you don’t attend, hoping attraction will happen by proximity. It won’t.

You’re an outsider in that environment. Those students are there for classes and social circles that you’re not part of. You look like a visitor waiting for something to happen instead of someone who belongs.

Confidence isn’t about declaring you’re “the best guy out there.” It’s about living a life that actually reflects that. Right now, you’re chasing validation instead of building value. Get a job, take classes, join a club, or volunteer somewhere where people naturally connect. Women respond to purpose, not presence.

Stop waiting for lightning. You need movement, not miracles. Build a life that’s interesting enough that people want to be part of it.

[Sally]

It’s hard watching everyone else pair off while you’re standing there wondering why nothing ever clicks for you. That kind of loneliness can make you feel invisible, even when you know you’re a good guy with a lot to give.

But hanging around a college you don’t attend just hoping something happens isn’t putting you in the right spaces. Most of those girls are focused on school, their friends, their lives. They’re not looking for someone outside that circle, and that’s why it feels like you’re hitting a wall.

You’re not doing anything wrong, you’re just fishing in the wrong pond.

Try meeting people in places where you actually belong. A job you care about, a class you sign up for, a hobby group, a sport, anything that puts you around people who share your interests. When you’re showing up as yourself instead of waiting on a campus hoping someone looks your way, things start flowing easier.

You don’t need lightning. You just need to be where real connection can actually happen.

[Val Unfiltered💋]

babe… you’re literally haunting a campus you don’t even go to and that’s not dating energy, that’s lost-puppy vibes😬 go build a life *you* actually live! maybe a job, gym, hobbies, friends? and watch how fast girls start noticing. confidence grows where you belong, not where you’re lurking. level up, then flirt up. 💅✨

[Natalie Noah]

The biggest thing I hear in your message isn’t that you’re doing something wrong it’s that you’re trying to force connection in places where you don’t actually feel grounded or fully yourself. You’re going to a college you don’t attend just to “feel normal,” and then hoping romance will appear there. That already puts pressure on you, because instead of living your own life, you’re orbiting someone else’s environment trying to fit in. Attraction grows best when your life has roots interests, hobbies, friendships, goals not when you’re hovering around waiting for lightning to strike. Girls don’t reject you because something is wrong with you; they simply don’t know you, and right now your approach (going up to random girls and directly asking them out without any foundation) feels abrupt. Not aggressive just too sudden for most women who don’t have a sense of who you are yet. A smile means she’s open to conversation, not that she likes you. Connection starts with small talk, shared interests, repeated interactions… not jumping straight to “Do you want to go out with me?”

And about liking three girls at once sweetheart, that’s not love or even deep interest. That’s loneliness mixed with longing. You’re spreading your attention everywhere because you’re hoping someone will choose you, instead of building one meaningful connection at a time. And that’s why everything feels confusing. You don’t need to “pick” one of the three you need to build a life where you naturally meet people through shared interests, not random chance. Volunteering, social clubs, learning something new, taking a class you genuinely enjoy, joining a hobby group these give you confidence and conversation skills. And yes, quiet men get girlfriends all the time but the quiet men who thrive are the ones who know how to be present, kind, curious, and socially capable, even in a gentle way. You don’t need to wait for love, and you don’t need to chase it desperately. You need to live your life fully… and when you do, the right woman won’t feel like a fantasy from across the room she’ll feel like someone who steps naturally into your world because you finally built one.

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