I met Steve through a neighbor of mine in Feburary. He asked me for my number and we began to keep in contact with each other. He would always ask me for sex and I would always deny him because I just didnt want to sleep with him. He would come and visit me sometimes but it would always utimately lead to him asking me to sleep with him. I began to like him but was too afraid to express my feelings to him because I felt as though he only wanted sex. I even loaned him some money and never asked for it back! Then we stopped talking for about 3 weeks, and when he called me one day out of the blue, he had a whole new attitude. He came to see me and told me that he really respected me and saw me as a really cool friend. I asked him why he felt that way and he said because I wouldn’t sleep with him and he was used to getting whatever girl he wanted. I was crushed that he only considered me as a friend but what could I do? I began to pull away because I like him and I didnt want to be just his friend. I began to date someone else in April and Steve and I contacted each other less and less until communication came to a halt. One day, he called me and asked if he could see me so I agreed to meet with him. We talked and hung out and began to keep in touch again. He and I have like personalities, and I began to fall harder for him and hope that he liked me too. I cheated on my boyfriend with him and slept with him one day while we were in the hottub, but we didnt finish. He then began to one day like me as only a friend and then the next want me to be his girl. His behaviour confused me and I pulled away from him again. This time it was me who contacted him after about a month of no communication. He seemed like he was happy to hear from me, he invited me to go on a trip with him out of town, he asks me to come see him on his lunchbreaks almost everyday and told me that he really wants me as his girl. I dont think that he is ready for a committed relationship and I think he talks to a lot of other women. When I voiced that I felt he was not ready he responded saying feeling and knowing are two different things. He is a very handsome guy, and like he said, he can have practically any woman he wants, so I am wondering is he serious about me, or is he just stringing me along for his convienence. I really can’t figure him out, and I dont want to seem like i’m nagging about this situation. I’m satisfied being his friend and honestly, i’d rather be that than to get hurt in a relationship that he doesn’t really want. What should I do in this situation and how can I find out if he is serious about wanting to be with me or is he just playing with my heartstrings?
