My gf and i have been exclusive partners for 4+ yrs, but recently she “reconnected” with an old guy friend from high school via facebook. Because we share a cell plan I have access to the logs, and one day I discovered over 2.5 hrs of phone calls and over 300 text msgs between them during a single weeks’ time. When confronted with it she told me it was nothing, just misc “catching up”. And then she got mad that I was checking up on her. But her apologies seemed superficial. So a week later I secretly checked her cell and found sexy text msgs to/from this guy, and a week after that I discovered email msgs between them in her facebook inbox. She apologized but didn’t seem sincerely regretful.
We fought about it for weeks and I finally decided to forgive and forget. However, she has since changed the password on our account so I cannot access the call/text logs anymore. She also erases her browsing history and never lets her cell out of her sight. She doesn’t trust me for snooping, but I tell her I wouldn’t have snooped in the first place had there not been a reason to. And now, with her blocking me from looking at her call/text history, her cell phone, her browsing history, etc., it’s very hard for me to trust her to not resume communication with this guy.
So which is worse: my snooping or her cheating (she denies she cheated b/c there was no intimate contact)? And does she have a right to her privacy or do I have a right to her transparency?
Dazed and Confused
.
