[BETH8073]

First off, I’m horrible at dating. I try and have had MANY 1st dates, but nothing really ever comes of them.

I’ve tried online dating and met this one guy that has all of the qualities I’m looking for. Well, he used to call me at night, but kinda stopped. I’ve been sedning him texts and he responds. We even made plans for a date on Saturday. I honestly want to talk to him daily because we laugh and what not, but I don’t want to be a stalker or even annoying for that fact. I’m almost afraid he won’t call for Saturday. What should I do?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

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If you’re only getting first dates, you’re doing something wrong, and if you follow the step by step chapters, and take the advice offered, you’ll understand how to approach men, and how to be the prize they want to chase and win. You should stop texting men who don’t ask you out on dates. Don’t you be the aggressor. Let them be the ones who goes after you.

But before that, you have to learn how to dress, groom yourself, flirt and where to go once you’ve mastered those things. You have to understand that dating is a numbers game, and that you have to have a lot of dates in order to meet someone who’s the right one. If you put all your eggs in one basket, you’re most likely going to be wasting your time.

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[Ethan Morales]

Here’s my take: the situation isn’t unusual lots of people fall into the trap of over-communicating early in dating because they’re excited, and it can unintentionally create pressure. From what you’ve described, the guy is still responding, which is a good sign, but the fact that his calling has decreased and he’s not initiating as much could mean he’s either busy, naturally less communicative, or starting to feel overwhelmed.

You want to show interest without seeming over-eager. That usually means: Let him lead sometimes, Give him space to initiate calls or texts. This helps you gauge his genuine interest.

Keep your texts light and playful, Don’t send long messages or multiple messages in a row; one thoughtful or funny text is enough to keep the connection alive.

Focus on the upcoming date, Since you already have plans, put your energy into that instead of trying to secure daily calls. Your in-person interaction will be far more meaningful than texting constantly.

Manage your expectations, Even if he doesn’t call before Saturday, it doesn’t automatically mean he’s not interested. People have different communication styles.

Essentially, you want to show excitement about seeing him without smothering him with constant messages. If he genuinely likes you, your Saturday date will be the proof and give you both the chance to connect without the texting anxiety.

[Serena Vale]

You know… I’ve been there. That feeling where you finally meet someone who checks all the right boxes, and for a moment, it feels like maybe this one could be different. Then, suddenly, the calls stop, the energy fades, and you start wondering if you did something wrong.

But here’s what I’ve learned, when someone wants to be in your life, they show up. You shouldn’t have to chase or fill the silence just to keep things going.

You can send him something simple, like:

“Hey, just checking in, still good for Saturday?”

And then let it be. If he wants to see you, he’ll make it happen. If he doesn’t, that’s his loss, not a reflection of you.

Don’t twist yourself trying to keep someone’s attention. You deserve someone who makes you feel wanted without having to question it.

And trust me, it’s better to be alone for a little while than to be the only one trying.

[Natalie Noah]

You’re caught in that common dating trap of over-investing early. You’re excited about someone who seems promising, which is natural, but your worry about bothering him or whether he’ll follow through on plans is creating unnecessary anxiety. The key is to step back a little and let him take the lead men often respond to space and confidence, and showing that you have your own life and boundaries makes you more attractive. Texting should feel natural and fun, not like a test or pressure.

Focus on enjoying the upcoming date without overthinking what comes before it. Prepare yourself to be present, laugh, and connect, rather than worry about frequency of communication. If he’s genuinely interested, he’ll show up and engage consistently. And remember, dating is a learning process. you’re refining what you want and how to navigate it with each experience.

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