[hopelessromantic95]

I was at my cousin’s wedding on October 29, 2016. I met this guy who is a year older than me. He and I danced the whole time at the wedding. We had a lot of fun screaming and jumping around. One of my cousins noticed and told me during the reception that this guy was feeling me and seemed to like me since he was always dancing with me. At the end of the night when we had to go our separate ways he told me to find him on facebook which I did. I sent him a friend request. He has not accepted it yet. I saw on his profile that he doesn’t post often so I assumed it’d be a few days until he sees it. BUT he did post a status update hours ago. So why did he not accept my friend request? He definitely acted like he liked me during the wedding. What should I do? Continue to wait for him to accept the request or should I just leave it alone cuz he was probably drunk when he was dancing with me? Help me please.

[Ask April Masini]

He’s not that into you. 😳 If he was, he’d accept your friend request or try to contact you. When a guy likes you, he’ll let you know. It sounds like this guy had a really good time with you at the wedding you were both at, but he isn’t interested in getting in touch with you or connecting, now that it’s over and in the past. My advice is to move on. It was a fun wedding and you liked each other for the night — but he’s not interested in more than that. Sorry. Next! 😉

[Sally]

Dancing at a wedding is a bubble. Loud music, drinks, no real life pressure. People can feel super connected in the moment and still not follow through later. It doesn’t always mean he lied or wasn’t into you. Sometimes it just means he sobered up, got shy, or decided not to open that door.

Him posting but not accepting hurts, I know. But that’s already your answer, even if it’s a quiet one.
Don’t send another request. Don’t message him. Let it sit. If he wants to connect, he will.

What you had was real for that night. It just might’ve been meant to stay there. And that’s okay.

[Tara]

Dancing with you at a wedding meant nothing beyond that night. Alcohol, music, chaos, low standards, that’s the environment. You mistook temporary chemistry for actual interest, and now you’re embarrassed because reality didn’t follow the fantasy.

If he wanted you, he would have accepted the request already. Full stop. People don’t “miss” friend requests while actively posting. He saw it. He chose not to respond. That’s not confusion, that’s indifference. The Facebook excuse you’re clinging to is denial.

Telling you to “find him on Facebook” was a polite exit line, not an invitation to pursue. He didn’t owe you honesty in a party setting, and you don’t get to rewrite the night into something deeper just because you felt a spark. Sparks happen easily. Follow-through doesn’t.
Do not message him. Do not remind him. Do not stalk his activity. Do not humiliate yourself by waiting like this is a cliffhanger. You already have your answer: silence.

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