I met a girl 3 years ago at our homeschooling graduation ceremony. We clicked instantly. She talked a million miles a minute, which was very annoying, but being the big guy that I am, I didn’t get much female attention then, so it was just fun to interact with her.
We texted all summer long, which was fun but also a drag. She wanted to text full conversations from the time we woke up till we went to bed. I was falling for her at the time, but as time moved, she grew more annoying. When Fall semester began, we drifted apart. I was relieved.
Just a few months ago, she started contacting me through Facebook, complaining about her boyfriend. I gave her advice – she used it – she loved the results – she saved her relationship. We started talking again often (through fb). Her annoying habits of always talking came rushing back. She is a perfectionist die-hard Catholic. She is socially awkward. It’s hard to make jokes with her cause often, she doesn’t get them unless they are very obvious.
About a month ago, she ended it with her man. Now she won’t stop trying to get “us” going again. She says that God has told her that we are meant to be. I am Catholic too, but I feel different. She is head-over-heels in love with me. I can very much tell. I care for her, but when I think about how I was only engaging with her because she was the only one willing to speak to me, it makes me wonder, “Should I settle for the first woman I meet?”
We are perfect for each other in so many ways, but at the same time, I can’t stand talking to her. She is needy, but really hot. She is ambitious in life, but expects the world on a silver platter. She has hinted at marriage many times.
I have barely dated. I am in my early twenties. I want to explore life’s offerings and date and enjoy mingling and all that stuff before I settle down just to get it out of my system.
She wants me to propose. She hasn’t said it, but she keeps hinting that the best time to conceive children is in the early to mid twenties.
I don’t want to go from living with my parents to living with my wife and baby. I want some in-between “me” time.
If I pass up on her, will I ever meet someone who is as into me as this woman is? Is she God’s real gift to me? My ONLY gift- opportunity? I know if I marry her, she will never cheat on me or anything. Will I find that kind of loyalty elsewhere? Is she my only chance at married life or can there be someone else?
