[exback4ever]

In my opinion, you should not have to deal with this kind of thing from anyone. I would tell him that you cannot live with all the lies and break up with him. It is obviously never going to change and you will be fighting for as long as you are with him and always be wondering if he is lying or not. Save yourself the heartache and move on…

I know that it can be difficult to do, but from what I see, it is not going to get better.

Hope this helps,

~Jeremy

[exback4ever]

I don’t know what has happened since you posted this, but if you lied about your age and the guy was not ok with that, then there is not really a lot you can do unless he decides to forgive you and accept things for the way they are. If he really loves you, then age will not matter. So, you could consider this a blessing in disguise as he obviously did not care for you as much as you thought he did.

It was a hard lesson learned. I bet you will not lie about your age like this again in the future, right?

Good luck!

~Jeremy

[exback4ever]

I don’t know how things work where you are from, but cousins getting married is not something that happens around here. For one, what do you think your kids would look like? Have you heard of the birth defects that can occur between blood relatives?

I think I would get the heck away from my family as quickly as possible. You should continue on your studies and wait for the right girl to come along.

~Jeremy

[exback4ever]

That is a tricky situation…. By the descriptions you gave, it sounds like your boyfriend and his girlfriend might make a good couple…. If you could manage to make that happen, you would be set…. But, if not, you may just have to talk to him and let him know how you feel….

Communication is the only way you are ever going to know if your love for him can ever happen. Otherwise you could end up hurting people and end up not getting what you want in the end anyway….

So, just find a way to have a nice talk with him alone and spill your guts to him.

Good luck,

~J

[exback4ever]

That is a tough situation and I can see why you would feel that way. She appears to want to be faithful to you and to not hurt you, but it seems that she is human and has urges that are sometimes uncontrollable. If I were you, I would write her a letter… I mean a personal handwritten letter. Keep it very positive and tell her everything you love about her. Make her melt when she reads it. Then, I would do whatever it took to get to see her in person. I am not sure what your situation is exactly or why your relationship has to be long distant, but if at all possible, arrange to see her… Not to check up on her, but because you love her and can’t stand to be away from her.

Good luck!

~Jay

[exback4ever]

I am speaking from a position that I am married to my wife who is 12 years younger than me (she was 16 when we got married). It is true that guys do like younger girls. But, depending on the guy, he could be using you for sex. He will be 18 soon, and then what? It is illegal for him to have any sort of sexual contact with you unless you are emancipated (as far as I know). Even if he doesn’t intend to just use you, what is his plan when he goes to college? Ask him what his plans are with the two of you? If he doesn’t have a plan, then there is no hope for your future together.

Sorry to sound a little blunt, but I would hate to see you get hurt.

[exback4ever]

It really sounds to me like this girl likes you, but she is in a place in her life where she feels a bit uneasy about getting into a serious relationship. I think you are doing great up to this point. She definitely likes you; she just needs to be able to let go of her fears and completely trust you.

[exback4ever]

David,

That’s a tough situation you seem to be in. It sounds to me like she either has something going on that you are unaware of or that she is confused as to what she really wants. Like you suggested, you may have scared her when you told her you were falling for her. How old is this girl?

If she is really young, she could be afraid to put her heart back out on the line after her recent break up. Girls are much more emotional than guys and their emotions can cause them to be afraid, confused, or even sad when in a situation like this…. especially younger girls. Believe me, I know…. My wife is 18yrs old… I married her when she was 16… It’s amazing we are still together.

Anyway, it might be a good idea to try to take some pressure off of her. Give her space and suggest that you just be friends. Maybe even invite her to do something with a small group of friends so she doesn’t feel stressed. At this point, you need to stay in her life, even if she doesn’t want a relationship right now. When the time is right, you will know it; she will show you and maybe even straight out tell you. Take it slow and be there for her no matter how “crazy” or “weird” things she says may sound…

I’m not racist or sexist or anything, but we as men will never figure out how women think or why they feel and think like they do. It is our job to support and be there for them if we really care for a girl.

Hope this helps.

Good Luck,

~Jay

[exback4ever]

David,

That’s a tough situation you seem to be in. It sounds to me like she either has something going on that you are unaware of or that she is confused as to what she really wants. Like you suggested, you may have scared her when you told her you were falling for her. How old is this girl?

If she is really young, she could be afraid to put her heart back out on the line after her recent break up. Girls are much more emotional than guys and their emotions can cause them to be afraid, confused, or even sad when in a situation like this…. especially younger girls. Believe me, I know…. My wife is 18yrs old… I married her when she was 16… It’s amazing we are still together.

Anyway, it might be a good idea to try to take some pressure off of her. Give her space and suggest that you just be friends. Maybe even invite her to do something with a small group of friends so she doesn’t feel stressed. At this point, you need to stay in her life, even if she doesn’t want a relationship right now. When the time is right, you will know it; she will show you and maybe even straight out tell you. Take it slow and be there for her no matter how “crazy” or “weird” things she says may sound…

I’m not racist or sexist or anything, but we as men will never figure out how women think or why they feel and think like they do. It is our job to support and be there for them if we really care for a girl.

Hope this helps.

Good Luck,

~Jay

[exback4ever]

David,

That’s a tough situation you seem to be in. It sounds to me like she either has something going on that you are unaware of or that she is confused as to what she really wants. Like you suggested, you may have scared her when you told her you were falling for her. How old is this girl?

If she is really young, she could be afraid to put her heart back out on the line after her recent break up. Girls are much more emotional than guys and their emotions can cause them to be afraid, confused, or even sad when in a situation like this…. especially younger girls. Believe me, I know…. My wife is 18yrs old… I married her when she was 16… It’s amazing we are still together.

Anyway, it might be a good idea to try to take some pressure off of her. Give her space and suggest that you just be friends. Maybe even invite her to do something with a small group of friends so she doesn’t feel stressed. At this point, you need to stay in her life, even if she doesn’t want a relationship right now. When the time is right, you will know it; she will show you and maybe even straight out tell you. Take it slow and be there for her no matter how “crazy” or “weird” things she says may sound…

I’m not racist or sexist or anything, but we as men will never figure out how women think or why they feel and think like they do. It is our job to support and be there for them if we really care for a girl.

Hope this helps.

Good Luck,

~Jay

P.S.

Sorry about the multiple post. My internet connection sucks.

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