[ratylird]

Sorry have been away for a while, I have since found another relationship. It’s going great, even her daughter is calling me dad lol.

I do need more advice though. This girl I’m with lives miles away from me, we’ve been seeing eachother like every 2 weeks, as I said the relationship is going great and she’s asked me to move in in August. I really do love this girl and I actually want to move in with her but at the moment, I’m a carer for my grandmother, alot of problems have gone on with the family and they’ve basically said if I move she would be put in a home. I really love my gran and I know thats not what she wants, to be honest I think it would finish her off, she’s not too well at the moment 🙁. I just dunno what to do, on one hand I think if I moved and something happend to my gran I would regret it and on the other hand I don’t want to lose my chances with the girl that really does seem like the one.

Any thoughts on the matter? I’ve mentioned this on an elderly care forum and they just told me to go and don’t look back, but I can’t help but worry what might happen.

[ratylird]

[quote=”lesterkiwi”]The difference between you and her..she has options…you don’t. She can go to any nightclub and find another you that will put up with her crap……and she knows it.
Look, I know by now you think I’m just being a jerk, but I’m not. I sincerely want you to get out of this relationship, do some soul searching, and work on becoming a better stronger person. Only when you like, respect, and are happy with yourself, will you find the quality woman you deserve.
Dating is a skill that can be learned. Put in the time to learn it. Once you become good at it you will have options. When you have options with women, you wont ever have to put up with being treated poorly again.
Good luck.[/quote]

I took you advice, I pulled 2 women last night on a night out and I’ve also been talking to another one but I think all she wants is sex. I’m not exactly the ugliest fella haha an I’ve proved to meself I can have options, I’ve just gotta’ make sure I don’t fall for her crap again. She’s now telling me she’ll delete her facebook and put me first an treat me right blah blah blah, sick of hearing it now. I’m just hoping she doesn’t do what she done last time and practicaly stalk me for a year :/

Thanks for the advice anyway you two.

[ratylird]

So heres what happend, last night she went on facebook last night on my laptop, later on she went to bed. I went to check my facebook and she had left hers signed in, so I looked at her messages. 2 days after Christmas (which is he birthday) she had messaged a lad tell him he owed her birthday sex! I also found out she still speaks to the other lad I mentioned. I confronted her last night and ended it, she broke into tears saying she doesnt speak to that lad anymore and she lied telling me she hadnt spoke to him for ages so I would get back with her. I didn’t mention the one she asked for birthday sex. We talked about things an we got back together but I don’t want to be with her! I can’t! I’m hurting so much but how can I end it?????? Everytime I try she crys an won’t give up trying to sort it out so I keep giving in, but I know this is wrong an I shouldn’t be with her.

Please help me, I know I probably sound like an idiot but I need help getting out of it.

[ratylird]

I really do love this girl though, during the year break we had I got with someone else but I couldn’t stop thinking about her the whole time. Is there anything I could do to make her realise how bad she treats me? Anything I could do to persuade her to put me first?

Thanks by the way.

[ratylird]

[quote=”April Masini”][quote]I know this isn’t the right choice to make, but I’m not getting any younger.[/quote]

You answered your own question! 😉 Since you want to settle down, and you know she isn’t the right choice, then get serious about finding Ms. Right. I agree with you that she’s not the right choice, and if you continue to play this game with her that spans several years now, where she’s shown you a pattern of putting a relationship with you on the back burner to her friends, another guy and lies that allow her to take care of herself without regard for your feelings, you’re going to stay in the same pattern with her of knowing she’s wrong for you and that you’re REALLY not getting any younger, with each year that you come to this realization and do nothing about it.

Dating isn’t easy — but nothing good ever is. Invest in yourself and your relationship and find Ms. Right. You already know she isn’t. 😉

I hope this helps. Please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].[/quote]

I really do love this girl though, during the year break we had I got with someone else but I couldn’t stop thinking about her, is there anything I could do to make it work? Anything I could do to make her realise how bad she treats me?

Thanks by the way

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