[enero1876]

thank you April. I will try to go by his actions. It seems we have gotten so close and now sometimes it feels he is pulling away. he doesn’t call/text as much as he used to in the last few weeks and I know he’s busy with work and a new promotion I guess I just want him to be more open with his feelings. I mean I seem to contact him more than he does me lately, yet when we are together I feel no distance at all. He says he thinks I may just be the perfect woman which not sure what that really means. I am doing my best to be patient since I know he is nervous about being serious with someone but I guess I feel like I am not being true to myself as I want real confirmation that I am his girl friend…I want him to claim me in front of everyone. I guess it doesn’t help that I am so nonchalant about the whole thing. I hope I can make it till the wedding next month as I feel I am ready to burst, not angrily just I have so much emotion inside me. thank you again for all your insight as I really need the rational side of things.

[enero1876]

well the visit with his dad and step mom went well. We spent the entire day with them, mostly just listening to them catch up and reminisce. He did tell his dad things about me, more so things to make me look good which was really sweet. Of course he did introduce me as his friend which is really driving me crazy now but trying to stay patient and wait till after the wedding as it will be 6 months of us dating in the same city. His dad hugged me when I left and said it was nice meeting me and to make sure I keep his son in line which gave me a laugh. We had a great time in his hometown and he said it was great spending time with me and sharing all of his favorite things that he missed

One other thing I have noticed is that he refers to me as his date…his friends call me his girlfriend right in front of him and he doesn’t correct them so I just don’t get it. I recently remembered that I did once say that I hated titles and that it made me nervous…I told him a story early on about how I freaked when my ex called me his girlfriend even though I wanted to be his girlfriend. Of course not sure if he really retained all that and thats why he says that or if I am over thinking it now.

[enero1876]

Thank you April. This is really helpful in calming me down as I don’t want to jump the gun. I can add a little more, he has been separated from her for three years come this August but the divorce was only finalized last year as she was getting her citizenship finally and the lawyer said it would be less drama if it still showed them as married. She doesn’t live in the same area anymore as well. He did have a brief relationship prior to me which he does call a rebound and he told me early on that we are not the case. We have talked about our feelings in general and what we want in a mate and kids but again only in general terms to determine if we are on the same page with these things and so far we are. My only other fear is that he may get scared and pull away and I don’t know how to react to that or how you counteract that without being crazy or clingy. Again thank you I agree waiting till after the family visits is a good call and for now I will just relax and enjoy our time together

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