[[hawt.n.bothered]]

If you still want him back, maybe you guys should meet up and have a talk. And if he goes berserk again, tell him to calm down and all you want is to work things out and it’s not right to just leave things like that. From what I see, (just my opinion) you both are emotionally attached but at the same time, wanting to move on (both of you kissed others). Your girl friends are right, he’s not worth it. He wanted a break up right? Sure, you are entitled to have fun and meet new people! He will eventually come looking for you again, but you really need to teach him a lesson 😎

[[hawt.n.bothered]]

It’s already [i]past[/i]. Not saying you could erase them just like that but if you really care/like her, well, just give it a try. I like the fact that she’s being honest, because it’s really hard for a girl to expose all her scandalous experiences hahah my boy friend finds it hard too, cause I was pretty wild before but as time goes by, he finally accepts for who I am and all my mistakes. But we struggled a lot though, he had trust issues with me and was a bit paranoid that I might cheat on him whenever I was out heheh. Sooo, learn to trust her as well =))

[[hawt.n.bothered]]

Hey April, my age is 23 and he’s 27. Well we argued a lot cause things didn’t go accordingly the way we expected from one another. We had plans to get married (dated for almost 3 years) and along the way he found his dream career so sometimes he can be a bit egoistic and his expectations were getting tremendously higher. *sigh* For instance, I am still doing my final year degree and sometimes he couldn’t stand my “student’s lifestyle”. hahah I am laazzzyyy. And he wanted a housewife material girl friend, which I am so NOT capable of.

The thing is, we did communicate a lot but I don’t know why it seems like our communication was sort of.. umm ineffective? That is why we argued so much that whenever one arguement was done, we automatically knew what to do or to avoid that particular issue. It’s like a routine already, more like a vicious cycle though (for me). Oh, he has a bad temper and may say hurtful things (during fights) or to dump me just like that and boy, I will always go back to him.

I don’t know April, some people will always want to work things out and yet they already knew that their partners aren’t good enough or rationally, they knew it is NOT going to work out. Some are afraid of the truth/reality so they might assume that as long as there’s still love, there will be hope. I have friends still keeping their partners even though there are cheatings and lies in the re/ship. Strange how love can fool you into a victim. Anyway, my ex is now begging to get me back and he vows to be a better person. Sounds so cliche huh whenever one asks for forgiveness.

But… I kinda like my “single” life now. 😀

[[hawt.n.bothered]]

Tell him how you feel about breaking the promises and the fact that he is going to ogle at some stripper. Tell him how would HE FEEL if you and your girl friends are enjoying at some male stripper club and you insist to go there because your friends are really important. Seriously, there are soooo many other places to go.. but why strip club?

[[hawt.n.bothered]]

uhh, your boy friend cheated on you because he wanted MORE sex. Now, that’s pretty disturbing. So yeah, he WILL cheat again when he is lacking of sex. If you still want him, okay fine, give him a chance.. besides, everyone makes mistake. But then again, some change for better; and some remain the same.
By giving him the “chance”, you need to observe him and do not trust him completely as you’re taking a risk now. If he strikes again, PLEEAASEEE do not take him back.

[[hawt.n.bothered]]

Like everyone says, “It takes both hands to clap”.. you can’t be fixing this marriage alone, well based on your descriptions, it seems like he NEVER appreciates your love and efforts – forgiving him, trying to adapt to his drinking, porn. And he is still cheating on you regardless of how much he realised about his love towards you. I know it’s hard to leave a 7 yr marriage, but what is the point when you’re not happy, insecure, lost, etc.
So yes, just leave him. Be firm with your decisions, cause it’s kind of predictable that he would come back to you again and beg for forgiveness, telling you how much he has changed, he realises the girl he cheats with is not the one bla bla bla. Take a break from this re/ship, go have fun =).

[[hawt.n.bothered]]

Yepp, just forget about this guy. That’s a whole load of bullsh*t saying he is afraid of this and that, obviously he only wants to have a good time with you. But hey, friends with benefits? Then you shouldn’t be so cranked up about this whole affair stuff – no feelings involved. If you still want him, tell him how you feel but if he is still giving excuses he is not ready and stuff, letting go is the best choice.

[[hawt.n.bothered]]

It boilds down to what extend of being a “social butterfly” though. It’s normal for girls to have some girls night out kind of thing but how is she behaving in the parties? Does she flirt excessively? Approachable (green light alert!) or is she just having a good time with her pals?

Talk to her, let her know how you feel whenever she’s out – the potential of meeting new dude etc. It’s either she tones down a bit or to accept her partying lifestyle. If it is still the same, well, obviously you’re not that important to her.

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