[Ngimwa]

Am 22 and she’s 23 and we’ve been going out for 2yrs and 10 months
Since I broke my spine I lost feeling from my waist down so getting an erection is sometimes not possible and if I do it doesn’t last really long so I am being taught to use a penis pump to help with the erectile dysfunction. On the kids front I can’t ejaculate during sex so to get kids I’ll have to go through a doctor. And the article said that the chances I might get a kid is 35 to 10 percent.
I don’t know what’s the problem so I’ll just write how the conversation went:
After telling her all this she started crying and told me we couldn’t have spontaneous sex like a normal couple (and for me I don’t see what’s so bad, I just need like 5 min and I’d be okay) and she felt like she had to sacrifice a lot and she didn’t think she had to give up kids (I really don’t know what she had to give up for me.. I really don’t and if I did I’d try find a way to get it back for her and the kids thing it’s not impossible it’s just more complicated)… Then she said she felt selfish cause she was thinking about herself.. I said it’s fine.. Then she told me not to be angry but she wanted a break cause she hadn’t thought about all this before we started then she repeated the kids thing.. Then she said it wasn’t fair to me and she hopes she knew this before I loved her then she apologised for being selfish then she just stopped crying and said it’s okay and she said she’s always telling me to be optimistic so now it’s her turn..
I hate what’s happened. I don’t want her to be unhappy and I know she loves me and I don’t want her to feel trapped cause she feels she can’t go if she wanted.
I asked her for a break and she assuredly me she was happy and told me it would kill her if I broke up with her
I feel bad of course cause of everything but I’d feel worse if she wasn’t happy.
Am I wrong in asking for a break, am I transferring my feelings onto her
I just need advice figuring it all out

[Ngimwa]

Am 22 and she’s 23 and we’ve been going out for 2yrs and 10 months
Since I broke my spine I lost feeling from my waist down so getting an erection is sometimes not possible and if I do it doesn’t last really long so I am being taught to use a penis pump to help with the erectile dysfunction. On the kids front I can’t ejaculate during sex so to get kids I’ll have to go through a doctor. And the article said that the chances I might get a kid is 35 to 10 percent.
I don’t know what’s the problem so I’ll just write how the conversation went:
After telling her all this she started crying and told me we couldn’t have spontaneous sex like a normal couple (and for me I don’t see what’s so bad, I just need like 5 min and I’d be okay) and she felt like she had to sacrifice a lot and she didn’t think she had to give up kids (I really don’t know what she had to give up for me.. I really don’t and if I did I’d try find a way to get it back for her and the kids thing it’s not impossible it’s just more complicated)… Then she said she felt selfish cause she was thinking about herself.. I said it’s fine.. Then she told me not to be angry but she wanted a break cause she hadn’t thought about all this before we started then she repeated the kids thing.. Then she said it wasn’t fair to me and she hopes she knew this before I loved her then she apologised for being selfish then she just stopped crying and said it’s okay and she said she’s always telling me to be optimistic so now it’s her turn..
I hate what’s happened. I don’t want her to be unhappy and I know she loves me and I don’t want her to feel trapped cause she feels she can’t go if she wanted.
I asked her for a break and she assuredly me she was happy and told me it would kill her if I broke up with her
I feel bad of course cause of everything but I’d feel worse if she wasn’t happy.
Am I wrong in asking for a break, am I transferring my feelings onto her
I just need advice figuring it all out

[Ngimwa]

Hey… So brief history.. I got an
accident 2 years ago. This mishap left
me in a wheelchair(Become a
paraplegic). During the first year after
my accident got a girlfriend and she’s
awesome. We have had a few bumps in the road but we always find a way to deal like every other relationship.
So I recently joined a sexual rehabilitation
thing.. Before jumping into it my doctor asked me to read about to get a rough idea then we would discuss.. I found this site and I forwarded the site to my
girlfriend (not sure that was a good
Idea but figured she should know)…
After she read it….
She was acting a bit funny so I asked her to tell me what she thinks.. She started crying and she said she felt selfish cause she thinking about herself, at one point she wanted a break, she said that she was okay sacrificing everything else but she never thought she’d have to do the same about kids but she felt bad and wished we could go back to before I feel in love with her and we won’t be
able to do what normal couples do…
then she just said that it’s okay… She’s didn’t wanna break and she can’t leave
cause is not fair to me… Then she said people find love very few times and
she loves me and she’s happy….
(Sorry if the conversation isn’t clear she was crying so couldnt hear everything and didn’t want to interrupt)…..
And it’s like she okay now but I don’t know if she’s happy… I love her and I
never believed in that if you love her
set her free but right now is making a
bit of sense. I know she loves kids and she wants to have some of her own. But I can try and get better but it’s not in my hands.. I want her to be happy and she’s been telling me that she is but I would hate for her to feel trapped. I would hate if she ends up unhappy in the long run. I don’t know what to do?

[Ngimwa]

Hey… So brief history.. I got an
accident 2 years ago. This mishap left
me in a wheelchair(Become a
paraplegic). During the first year after
my accident got a girlfriend and she’s
awesome. We have had a few bumps in the road but we always find a way to deal like every other relationship.
So I recently joined a sexual rehabilitation
thing.. Before jumping into it my doctor asked me to read about to get a rough idea then we would discuss.. I found this site and I forwarded the site to my
girlfriend (not sure that was a good
Idea but figured she should know)…
After she read it….
She was acting a bit funny so I asked her to tell me what she thinks.. She started crying and she said she felt selfish cause she thinking about herself, at one point she wanted a break, she said that she was okay sacrificing everything else but she never thought she’d have to do the same about kids but she felt bad and wished we could go back to before I feel in love with her and we won’t be
able to do what normal couples do…
then she just said that it’s okay… She’s didn’t wanna break and she can’t leave
cause is not fair to me… Then she said people find love very few times and
she loves me and she’s happy….
(Sorry if the conversation isn’t clear she was crying so couldnt hear everything and didn’t want to interrupt)…..
And it’s like she okay now but I don’t know if she’s happy… I love her and I
never believed in that if you love her
set her free but right now is making a
bit of sense. I know she loves kids and she wants to have some of her own. But I can try and get better but it’s not in my hands.. I want her to be happy and she’s been telling me that she is but I would hate for her to feel trapped. I would hate if she ends up unhappy in the long run. I don’t know what to do?

[Ngimwa]

thanks…man now its alot easier to take in and i am startin to relax.. i love her and ill just take it easy and am sure itll be okay…
Thanks alot though..at the moment it felt like my world was crumbling…

[Ngimwa]

thanks…man now its alot easier to take in and i am startin to relax.. i love her and ill just take it easy and am sure itll be okay…
Thanks alot though..at the moment it felt like my world was crumbling…

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