[HoneyBurst61]

Hi April,

Thanks for the reply and yes I re-read everything you wrote. I can never forget the lies, all the lies she told over the years, and while I cannot forget I can forgive, knowing she is unstable kind of makes it a little easier. I think that was my greatest downfall when I took her back so many times in the past… my ability to “forgive”, but I “never” forget.

I have every intention of following through with the legal/court stuff and yesterday I reported the Friday night incident to the correct people.

When she showed up at my door in the first place after not hearing or “seeing” her (obviously she hides well) I knew something was wrong… you don’t just come banging on your ex’s door one night after a year of silence. Luckily she admitted to my next door neighbor that she had been “watching” who has been coming and going from my house, lucky for me as now I have a witness to her behaviors.

Having her “new” fiance threaten me just doesn’t make any sense? I mean after 5 years with me, 5 years of telling me she is going to get divorced but never did, all of the sudden she finds the “real” man of her dreams after we split? Then why “watch” me at all? Why even care if there are other females in my life? Why get your “new love” involved in behaviors like this showing him what you’re really about, and then if she loves this “new fiance” so much why would she put his safety in jeopardy by forcing him into a confrontation with me? None of it makes any sense at all to me?

I have a lot of questions but think I will let the authorities work out the answers for me but even that hasn’t been an easy road. Every single social service legal agency I have gone to (remember I am medically disabled at this time) either turned me down flat offering no help or immediately thought I was the [b]DEFENDANT[/b] because I am a MALE. WTF?

I’ll keep you posted on progress and while I wish I could join you over on Facebook it seems that FB is another venue she may be utilizing to find out my business… I just don’t know? So I’m keeping quiet on FB until the court dates are finished.

Wish me luck and hope that she get’s the help she needs so badly, deep down she’s not a terrible person, just a sick person.

[HoneyBurst61]

Hi! I’m the ORIGINAL poster of this thread but couldn’t remember my password and I’ve changed ISP since registering so not sure what email address I used to recover my password.

I am REVISITING this thread almost one year later to give the following update…

[b][u]***UPDATE***[/u][/b]

After breaking up with her in April 2010, about two weeks ago I received a call from my next door neighbor who asked me if I was home? It seems that my “EX” was in the neighbors living room and “wants to talk to me”. I met her outside and she immediately begins questioning me with “who are you seeing now”? 😯

I told her that “whether I was seeing anyone or not was none of her business since she walked out on me when I needed her the most”! She then went on to make visual descriptions of several women who have “stayed” with me over the months since we broke up, she also told me other personal information that she would not have been privy to? When I asked her how she knew these things all she said was “don’t worry about it”! Exactly why I am worrying about it… my ex doesn’t just live around the corner she’s in another State completely!

I think I have a stalker and have reported this to the authorities, she went on to threaten me by phone a few days later and even had some guy (who she said is her fiance) threaten to “kill me”… both are obviously idiots since they left the threats on my voice mail, calling from her phone. 🙄 This past Friday night I was enjoying some female company while my car alarm kept going off, and kept going off. My car was parked around the corner from my house and not in my line of sight… when I went out Saturday morning to check things out I found a shirt stuffed into the tail pipe of the car. This would have been bad had it not been daylight, not seeing a black shirt stuffed into the tail pipe of a black car could have had disastrous effects if I had gotten in and started driving. I’m pretty sure I know who did it but unfortunately without a visual identification “guessing” who did it doesn’t count!

The night she showed up I was able to tell her this… “No matter how many times you’ve broken my heart, no matter how many times you lied to me and didn’t keep you word… so many times I couldn’t begin to count! But, no matter what I never stopped loving you and hoping you would get the help you need so badly”.

After we split up I went through the usual “missing the person and all we had together” but then I moved on and began dating again… nothing serious, just seeing a handful of women, after being hurt as badly as my ex hurt me I’m just not “ready” for any kind of LTR at this point, but I’m just not sure what to do about the ex?
I mean we have a court date and under no circumstance should I tolerate her stalking me as she has admitted to (she even told my next door neighbor this who is now a witness), but even after all this time has past, and I have begun new intimate relationships, I still see the love in her eyes when I looked at her that night! Arrgghh!

I know, I know, she’s nuts and I should move forward with the legal proceedings against her… I can’t help how my heart feels though and that’s the thing that hurts the most.

HoneyBurst61 aka HoneyBurst60

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