[Kalyov]

I just wanted to tell you what happened tonight.

After I read this post I was standing in the restroom crying, and one of my Fraternity sisters came in and sat there and listened to me talk for awhile. She told me “You won’t know unless you try.” She had been through this very same thing. So she took my phone and wrote a text message. She wrote “(His name), so I know we haven’t talked in awhile, and if you don’t want to I understand. But would you be interested in hanging out sometime?” Handed the phone to me and said “send it.” I was hesitant so I did. An hour went past and no response, I was in even more tears.
His roommate’s fiance is another of my Fraternity Sisters. She said “we are all going to a Show Choir Competition tomorrow so we are leaving tonight, he might be packing the car.” Well I waited another hour and now I was in some serious tears. All my sisters piled around me kept asking what was wrong so we talked for awhile.
By this time his roommate’s fiance had left because they had to get going.
I got a text from her saying “He never got the text, Baby Girl.” So I asked…”Should I resend it?” And she said “Yes, I would try resending it. He said, ‘What? Oh my god, I would have answered her.'”
So I resent it and he responded with, “Um we could probably make that work sometime. I dunno when but it could happen 🙂“
I said “Sounds Good 🙂” And then he said “Ok well anyhow imma go to sleep now. So…good night 🙂” Because By that time he had been driving for 3 hours and it was past midnight, I responded with, “Good Night 🙂“

I am all similes now. I hope this works out.

[Kalyov]

He wants us to just be friends, he wants us to try friends for awhile (an unstated amount) and maybe possibly if he feels like it, try dating again. Is this a bad idea?

We never really got the chance to have a relationship – his roommate is extremely depressed and he is always running after him, trying to help him. His roommate will try and cut himself so he has to stop him, his roommate gets mad and runs off – he goes after. His life is nearly absorbed within his roommates depression. Every time we’ve tried to have us time his roommate keeps sending him nasty texts, which causes him to leave because he has to go “fix the problem.” So we really have not actually been able to spend any time together without stress since April 2010.
This really stressed me out, so I was always in a bad mood towards him and his roommate – I kept trying to get him to get his roommate help, and he wouldn’t.

I just kept telling myself “once his roommate gets married to his fiance, everything will get better.”(he is getting married next December) But…we didn’t get to get that far.

[Kalyov]

I wonder if he’s afraid of commitment
He said he looked into his future and didn’t see us together, but he also said he didn’t know what he saw in his future – he was unsure.

[Kalyov]

well he finally asked!!!!
thanks for all of your help 😀

[Kalyov]

Well today is the day 😀
I need to get some beauty sleep because im meeting him at 9am
Its also going to be a long day
We are going to spend 12 if not more hours together
Im nervous and excited at the same time 😀
We’ve gotten much closer this past week, and im hoping he will ask tomorrow!
My friend which I had not told anything about Trip asked me why I was so happy yesterday and I said “personal.” She said “its about Trip isnt it? You two have been very close here lately, and I see the way he looks at you.”
So I guess its oblivious now! lol

[Kalyov]

I really wish I had the money to buy your book, I’m sure it would come in handy; sadly I am a poor college student with no job at this current time. >.<

Yes I suppose he does lack some self-confidence…Maybe I should try to boots it for him? My flirting style is very sarcastic and a lot of the time I tell him he “fails” at certain things. Maybe I should stop joking around like that.

But yeah I see what you mean about us acting like HS students instead of college students…

You can forgive him though, hes only a 18 year old freshmen(he will be 19 in Nov). I have a feeling he is new to all of this…relationships that is.

But so am I…I have only had two, and they were both last year. I feel like a 15 year old when trying to deal with men and dating, instead of a 21 1/2 year old.(So were 2 1/2 years apart)

Like I said before, I have only had 2 boyfriends; if you could even count the first as a relationship. I thought it was, we spent almost 24/7 together always going out to eat and going to the movies(to me it was like a relationship without the officialness – or thats what I thought)…he had told me him and his girlfriend had broken up and I believed him. He moved away at the end of the summer and we continued to talk online for 3 months until I found out that he had strung me along the whole time and that he never broke it off with her and that they were still dating.

We stopped talking on thanksgiving last year, at the start of November my friends boyfriend introduced me to his bestfriend via the internet because he went to a different college than all of us. Well we chatted just as friends until #1 and I lost contact, then he asked me to the movies.
We all went, so it was a double date…and then later that night he asked me out.
Stupid me said yes…it lasted only a month. He cheated on me three times, and dumped me because I wouldnt have sex with him.

Both of them hurt me emotionally and it took me months to get over, and now 10 months later I feel its time to move on and that I have found someone worthy. Trip is so different than #1 and #2, and I wish I would have found him sooner, but I guess we always have to go through some duds before we find a good one.

I myself had a lack of self-confidence after those two blows, and it is slowly being regained…that is one reason I am unsure of how to handle relationships and dating.

Going on..I think hes getting braver slightly…I know he is trying, and its cute.

Last night we had a football game and my spot in the stands is exactly in front of him.(Thats actually how we started talking to each other).
Well I decided to not focus all my attention on him like I normally do during the games (3hrs of just talking to him), instead I decided to watch the game.
He placed his hand on my shoulder; he kept touching me one way or another all night. And tried everything to get my attention, even to the point of singing to me…I was actually pretty embarrassed at that, but it was cute.
(He sang the first line of – Dont stop believing “Just a small town girl, livin’ in a lonely world” then smiled and said “your a small town girl.” (yes I am..im from a small town and hes from around St. Louis) so I sang the second part “Just a city boy, born and raised in South Detroit” saying “and your a city boy.” — it was cute >.<)
Well as the night wore on he started playing with my hair, but at one point he was trying to put it behind my ear and he accidentally pulled it and it hurt. So with my reaction I think I startled him because he backed off some. (I had said “Ouch, that really hurt.”)

I think I pulled a dumb move later actually…he mentioned that he was hungry and asked if I was. Stupid me didn’t think anything of it and said: “No I am still full from lunch/dinner.” (the band eats and early supper before the game) He kind of made an exasperated noise which made me want to smack myself in the head because I then realized I should of said “yes.”

[Kalyov]

thank you for all your help
Im still waiting for him to ask me..hopfully he will on Halloween.
Just trying to get him to do so, hes so shy.
I think our relationship has improoved though….theres not as much poking and hi-fives being done by him…A few pokes and a couple of kicks here and there.
But theres a lot more arm touching, or just comming over to talk to me if he sees me from across the room, and how we have this unwritten rule of getting online at 10:30pm everynight and chatting until midnight or 1am.

We spent a lot of time together today; like he walked me to one of my classes, and then after the class we have together (later on in the day) we walked back together and then he had nothing to do so he just followed me around campus talking. We were extreamlly close while we walked, shoulder touching shoulder…until my ‘friend’ showed up and butted into our convo and butted him out. So he just quietly walked behind us while she gabbed away and I just glared at her…(she has a crush on him but he doesnt like her…actually she likes anything with “three legs” if you know what I mean) So then we all stopped and chatted for awhile but he kept further away, then his roommate showed up and he backed a bit further away…I guess its because hes shy maybe? But it saddned me…I was getting really mad at my ‘friend’ for ruining things, but I didnt say anything.

Also I want to ask about this…

My friend (we will call him Bullfrog because that is his nickname) Bullfrog works in the schools mail room and the guy I like (we will call him Trip because thats his nickname I gave him). well Trip went to grab his mail and he receved a care package from his church full of food and goodies…the convo went like this.

Bullfrog: “Looks like you have enough there to share with your roommate?”
Trip: “nah”
Bullfrog: “How about you girlfriend?”
Trip: “I dont have a girlfriend…”
Bullfrog: “Got anyone in mind?”
Trip: “Not yet…no:” (replied quickluy and ran off)

is that because hes so shy???
Because that just confuses me…that was right after he walked me to class.

[Kalyov]

Figured I would give you this update.

Last week he asked me if I wanted to spend Halloween with him. We are both in our college marching band and he is a Music Education Major (he is going to be a band director). He wants to take me with him to watch his High School marching band compete at a competition.

I suppose that is sort of like a date. ^_^

I have wondered if he is waiting till then to actually ask me out? Or if not I thought about asking him when we get back to campus (we will prob be spending most of the day together)…

Me: “why haven’t you asked me yet?”
Him: “Ask you what?”
Me: “Out…you have been flirting with me for awhile now.”

or would that be a bad thing to say?

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