[YamaDarma]

Hwllo, everyone,
I lost my battle for Melly’s love a few months ago. It cost me my honor and pride and self-esteem, but I didn’t beg for her to try to make it work. I was 47 when I met her, I’m 47 now and feel like I’m 67. I will NEVER fall in love again.
To the guys out there, watch out cause she is not the only shark in the ocean.

[YamaDarma]

Thank you for listening to me and all the advice. I have not contacted her since then and even refuse to let my dog near her house. I have no choice going by her house though when I take him for his walk since my house is in a cul-de-sac. If I could find another route I would. All I can do is ignore her , act like I don’t know her, and drag my dog away when she calls his name.
It’s not fair to him, but what is fair nowadays?
He’s just a little dog with a big heart. Everyone in the neighborhood knows him and he’s just as happy as can be
when they pet him. LOL even the small kids in this area aren’t afraid of him. He’s just a little Scottish terrier.
Anyway, Thanks for everything. I won’t let her or any other woman treat me like that again.
I’ve done without female companionship for almost 11 years before until I met Melly. I can do it again for the
rest of my life if I have to. I don’t care anymore LOL! 😀

[YamaDarma]

I guess I barked too soon. Last evening she caught me and my dog again and invited me in to talk. At first we were getting along but then she started the analyzing thing on me (she is a licensed social worker but an alcoholic), I said I thought we were starting over why are you bringing up the past?
she said ok. We talked a little longer and I asked if she wanted to come with me to finish my dog’s walk. She said let me finish these last few sips and we’ll go. We had a nice walk and a decent conversation. When we got back to her house she wanted to go to the store for cigarettes (she insisted that my dog go with us). When we got back to her house she asked if my dog and I would like to visit a while longer. I thought ok this is going in the right direction. WRONG.
Her sister-in-law showed up ( she has a key to her house) all beat up by her husband (black eyes no less) which is my so-called girlfriend’s brother.
I kept my cool but my girlfriend which we’ll call her Melly, started her criticizm of me in front of her sister-in-law.
I kept my cool for a while but then I reminded her we were starting over and to drop the subject. Several times this happened. To make a long story short I lost even though I was in the right on every point. Needless to say I left. After carefull thought I wrote a nice short letter telling her how I felt and that if she really wanted it to work she needed to meet me half way. I walked up to her house to tape the letter to her door but guess what? The young punk that was there over the weekend showed up as I was getting there. This was at 2:30 a.m.
As it was dark and I wasn’t seen I decided to walk by unnoticed. I heard her answer the door and either she said “I f*** up, or she said I’m f***ED up”. I couldn’t tell for sure. Nowe since I was already there I waited til the door was shut then taped the letter to her door. But because I was miffed at the situation I called her sister-in-law’s cell phone to say tell Melly that if she can’t show me she really loves me with physical affection, why wouldn’t she write me a love note or something? I’ve wrote her several when I couldn’t be available.
About 15 minutes later that little punk called ME and ran his mouth and I said it was none of his business.
He bowed up like King Kong and challenged me to a fight. Big mistake on his part considering I’m a former special forces soldier. I ended up not going to fight him because she is not worth going to jail over. I would lose my security clearance and any hope of getting a decent job.
I still love her very much but refuse to be treated that way again. A woman I lived with for 5and a half years did that to me for 4 and a half of those years.
I made that clear before she called that young punk last night. I’d rather die than be treated that way anymore.
Am I wrong?

[YamaDarma]

Thanks for the advice. I have avoided her for a few days and had intended to do so longer. Problem is the only
route I can take my dog for a walk takes me right past her house. She I think intentionally was sitting on her
porch and called his name and of course he scrambled to her. We talked for a few minutes and I told her if
she wanted it over bewteen us I would agree with no problem. She said “No, it’s not over. We’re going to start
over as just friends. I said ok then if that’s what you want. Then she criticized me about my cut-off shorts by telling me some neighbors had told her they were too short and showed my genitals. If they had a problem with it
they should have came to me not her. That’s what I said. To make a long story short I told her that if she wanted
to start over she needs to stop criticizing me. Was I in the right on that or not?

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