Dear April,
When I first started dating my boyfriend I was into him but I didn’t think he was “the one.” There were things about him I didn’t like such as his short temper. But he was romantic and sweet and sexy so I fell in love with him. He was crazy about me.
After five months of dating he proposed. I still had too many doubts about him being “the one” so I said no. But we continued to date for over a year (with a couple breakups sprinkled in).
Then I decided to move to a bigger city. I told him it was because I got a good job there but really it was because I wanted to try and meet someone new. He didn’t want to move so we broke up. But ever since I moved we haven’t been able to stop seeing each other. I only live about 2 and 1/2 hours away so it’s easy for us to drive up and see each other. Whenever we get together it’s amazing and I’m extremely happy.
He keeps begging me to move back and part of me wants to. Every guy I have met in this new city I haven’t liked. And it’s really hard for me to meet new people. I feel like if I moved back I could marry him and life would be a lot simpler.
But I still have all those doubts about him being the right guy for me. I’m afraid if I move back, all the passion we feel from being apart will go away and I’ll be unhappy. He loves me so much and takes good care of me and there’s so much I love about him but then there’s the things I don’t like too. The temptation to see him is too strong to resist because I’m at my very happiest when I’m with him. But maybe I could be even happier with someone else.
Should I stay with him? If not, how can I resist the temptation to see him?
